A few days back I asked all of you what you wanted to see more of on the blog. And this was one of the responses I saw the most.
Let me start by just saying this. Taking care of yourself is much deeper than taking the time to put make up on and curl your hair (though those things are important if they make you feel better). It is much deeper than changing out of those jammies or yoga pants into more flattering (but less comfortable) clothing.
For us mothers, when we start a family, our children become our main focus and priority and we lose pieces of ourselves in the process. We forget who we were pre-baby era, and spend our days taking care of everyone else’s needs but our own. This has got to STOP. These habits aren’t serving anyone when we are tired, angry, and yelling at anything with a pulse.
We cannot be the best mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, aunt, etc if we aren’t taking care of ourselves first. We NEED those long hot baths, time to journal, giggles with our girlfriends, and brunch dates. We need time to be us, even if it’s just locking the bathroom door and taking an extra long time to shave our legs and put our lotion on with Alanis Morrisett (or another 90’s music icon) playing loud enough to hide the screams of our 4 year old. Our sanity literally depends on it.
While we need to tend to our children and responsibilities, we also need to make ourselves a priority. We need to schedule in those trips to the nail salon, mornings to sleep in, and spending sprees at our favorite stores.
We also need to get back to those yoga classes, dance lessons, or wine and art nights. We need to do more of what makes us happy. Mom’s we NEED to fill our cups first before we can pour into others.
You may be sitting there thinking to yourself, “I don’t have time/money for those things anymore” and trust me, I get it! I’ve been there. I have had those same exact thoughts. But the thing is, is that you do. It just takes some schedule rearranging and budgeting prioritization. And if you truly don’t have the time or funds, please, for the love of all things, come talk to me, so I can show you how to build a business from your phone.
My point is, is that without doing these things, without taking care of ourselves, or putting ourselves first from time to time, we get lost, we accumulate resentment, and we aren’t living up to our fullest wife/mother/(insert your name here) potential. We owe it to ourselves, our friends, our family, heck even to the world to take better care of ourselves.
Also, I would like to mention that by doing these things, and by taking care of ourselves, we are setting an amazing example of self love for our little ones.